Counselling and Psychotherapy - what's the difference?
Simply, that counselling is a very effective short-term intervention, whilst psychotherapy often has a longer and deeper focus. The issues that you are encountering, as well as their likely origins, will determine which of the two is most appropriate - this is why I offer a free, no-obligation session for your first appointment, where we can discuss and explore whatever you feel is wrong. But the two terms are often used interchangeably, and sometimes even overlap each other. Increasingly psychotherapy and counselling are referred to jointly as "talking therapies", which avoids having to draw distinctions between the two interventions.
Psychotherapy sheds light on emotional problems that have developed over time, which can stretch back to your very earliest memories and relationships - by understanding how and why your past is affecting your present, it will also become easier for you to understand and accept yourself. Counselling, on the other hand, is useful for people who are facing specific difficulties and choices, that are all about present day problems, such as whether to make a career change or not.
Finding the right therapist or counsellor for you
The relationship you will have with your counsellor or therapist is important, so before you commit to anything, ask questions - of them, and of yourself. What do you want from the process and what changes would you like to make? Would you prefer to work with a man, or a woman? Does their age or background matter? Be brave, be true to yourself, and trust your instincts: the strength of the relationship will play a key role in getting the outcome you want.
Nerves, and sometimes even embarrassment, are normal - therapy is challenging, after all. But your therapist or counsellor should be someone you can trust, someone who understands you, and someone who - with each session - helps you to learn a little more about yourself.
The "right" counsellor or therapist will put you at ease, and provide a safe space for you to speak honestly. They'll listen to you and they'll respect your opinions. You'll feel secure with them, as you begin to find solutions, and make changes. If you're looking for a counsellor or psychotherapist in Nottingham any practitioner should be happy and able to answer the following questions:
Counselling and psychotherapy has taught me so much about myself. What's more, it's helped me find and live a life that I'd never thought possible. In therapy I discovered how afraid I'd always been of sharing my "true" self - since childhood I'd hidden my feelings, both from myself and from others. This made meaningful adult relationships almost impossible. I'd always adapted to others, to avoid the risk of rejection but grown into a person who was very often lonely, anxious or depressed.
In the safe space provided by my therapist I slowly learned to value myself - to see the qualities I'd denied, and to challenge the person I thought I was. As I started to accept myself more fully, life became a little less scary. I began to see its possibilities - I began to understand just what I was capable of.
Today, I'm passionate about helping people, in the same way that I've been helped. My work isn't just about using my clinical knowledge (although that's very important) - it's a passion that stems from a deeply personal place, and a path that I've had to walk myself. The lessons, gathered from my own journey, will help me to understand and properly support you.